NLP Therapy & Coaching
Sylvia Guest

Sessions Via Skype™/Phone or
Kaeo Clinic by appointment
(Northland, New Zealand)

 

Sessions Via Skype™/Phone
or Kaeo Clinic by appointment
(Northland, New Zealand)

NLP Therapy & Coaching
Sylvia Guest

Empowering you to choose

  • sylvia@morebetter.co.nz
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  • 09 393 0156
  • |
  • 022 076 3734

NLP Therapy & Personal Coaching
Sylvia Guest

Empowering you to choose


 

Sessions Via Skype™/Phone
or Kaeo Clinic by appointment

(Northland, New Zealand)

Thinking Cap cartoon woman with thinking cap on

A little bit fun, a little bit serious - and an invitation to ponder.

The learning value of apples

(Why it's sometimes smart to do something different)

No - not that apple story - you probably already know about Adam and Eve. This one stars Kevin and Florance (with an 'a'), and the apple tree.

Unable to reach them herself, Florance seemed pretty miffed as she watched four year old Kevin pick and eat the sweet, juicy apples fresh from the tree.

Newsflash! Life isn't always fair

Right on cue, Florance had one of those terrible two's tantrums. She screamed at Kevin, stomped her feet and tried to push him out of the way. Within a mere minute though, Flo worked out that her behaviour was not getting her any apples.

So, she stopped. She gazed into the distance.

She started thinking. speech bubble hmm

Changing strategy

Then - she sat down.

And because Florance (like Kevin) is a KuneKune pig - with short legs and a long body - when she sits down her head is higher than when she's standing. This puts her almost non-existent neck at the perfect angle to stretch up and nip those delicious apples from the tree.

By simply changing her strategy, Florance got success, satisfaction and a full tummy. I'd be happy with that... wouldn't you?

When you always do what you've always done, you always get what you've always got. So if you don't like what you've been getting, do something, anything, different - and reap your own sweet rewards.

The easier said than done column...

(Why we sometimes don't know how to do something different)

It's all very well to say "do something different" - but what happens when we just don't know how? And why don't we know how?

Habits - automatically responding in the same ways to the same things over and over - are normal. If we had to consciously think about everything, all the time, we would quickly go into overload and wouldn't be able to function.

The expert in your head

Our brains are expert at developing pathways for repeated and repeating thoughts, feelings and behaviours. Pathways can be so deeply formed that even when what we're doing is not so good for us or no longer gets us the results we want, we still follow them.

Getting off the comfort of the path can seem like climbing a cliff face, the sheer difficulty (and sometimes fear) outweighing, overshadowing and tuning out our desire for change.

Doing it the the smart way

NLP is like having your own elevator at the bottom of the cliff. Once you open the door you can choose where you want to go, leaving the old pathway behind and creating new choices along the way. Choices linked to whatever would have, in the past, triggered you to go back down (and stay on) the old pathway.

With more choices comes flexibility, and with flexibility we build resilience. This allows us many more and better ways of responding to whatever life throws our way.

The Law of Requisite Variety (originating from cybernetics, and adopted into NLP) states that the unit within the system with the most behavioural responses available controls the system.

Contact Sylvia to find out how to update your habits and gain the flexibility to control your own system.

glass elevator

Glass elevator, Wulong Karst, China.
Image by Allan Wilson, live-less-ordinary.com

 

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